Happy New Year!
“Conversations are not just a way of sharing information; they actually trigger physical and emotional changes in the brain that either open you up to having healthy, trusting conversations or close you down so that you speak from fear, caution, and anxiety”
Judith E. Glaser
You know the feeling...
Something happened when you were talking, texting, or chatting online, and now you feel a disconnect. Maybe you wonder if something about the relationship has changed, and you wonder what you can say or do to clear things up.
What's up with that?
Human beings crave connection, and when we interact in conversation, or communicate in any way, we can deepen our connections and strengthen our relationships. Unfortunately, the opposite is also true and a conversation gone awry can leave us feeling misunderstood, confused, invalidated, angry, or hurt.
It's so much more than just talk!
We sometimes think of our everyday conversations as “just talking,” but a conversation is a place of vulnerability, so when a conversation with someone has turned out badly for us before, it can become difficult to have that, or any discussion with them again.
What you need is a conversation reset; an interruption of your detrimental communication patterns. We will do that by identifying the patterns that don't work for you and giving you the communication skills to replace those patterns with new ones that bring you closer to your loved ones, and increase your leadership skills and professional effectiveness.
"Invest in yourself. One easy way to become worth 50 percent more than you are now at least is to hone your communication skills. If you can't communicate, it's like winking at a girl in the dark: Nothing happens. You can have all the brainpower in the world, but you've got to be able to transmit it." ` Warren Buffet
As a coach, my job is to help you move forward and achieve specific goals, so we won't spend time talking about your mother unless she's the immediate problem; we're not going to dwell on your past because you've already spent enough time there.
I combine my pattern recognition skills with compassion and cognitive-behavioral neuro-coaching to help you find and change the patterns in your communication style that are bringing you pain or frustration. You can read more about me and my background here.
I’m going to show you how neuronal and biological responses in your interactions keep you stuck living out an old story, conversation after conversation. But, I'll also show you how to change that by rewiring your brain to short-circuit them. Understanding these processes in yourself and others and knowing how to master them will dramatically change your day-to-day interactions with absolutely everyone.
I offer free 30-minute discovery sessions on Tuesdays; I call it Disco Tuesday. We'll spend time talking about you and your goals during this session and getting to know one another. I'll answer your questions, explain my methods, and how sessions work. We'll discuss my fees (also located here) and I'll answer any other questions you have. You'll probably know by the end of our conversation if I'm the coach you're looking for, and we'll both know if we're a good fit. If you're not ready, there's no need to feel pressure to decide or make any commitments during this conversation; you can always get back to me. There are many great coaches out there, so I encourage you to interview coaches until you feel that you've found the perfect fit.
"I worked with Michele on my communication skills! She was wonderful! Her techniques helped me to take a breath before I react when communicating with family members. I highly recommend her!" - Angela V.
"This coach (Michele) saved my life by helping me prepare for an immigration interview. I'm now a citizen! This experience was 110% positive." - River K.
"I'm on the autism spectrum, making conversations difficult for me in ways I thought were impossible to fix. But from our very first meeting, Michele was easily able to see my perspective. Michele is supportive, encouraging and incredibly knowledgeable. Her ability to see the subtleties in any type of conversation unlocked the key to understanding and connecting with, not just my customers, but everyone in my life." - Alison L.